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Superficially, these words address money but Pastor Brian emphasized deeper underlying and foundational issues of the heart. Greed, self-centeredness, selfishness, and a resulting dissatisfaction with “life on life’s terms” he taught as being at the center of money issues. Understanding and accepting these character defects is essential to finding a sustainable sober life. Even the Beatles knew, “Money Can’t Buy You Love,” but the truth is, it can’t buy happiness, either.
Let’s take a look at a couple of examples of men I’ve known. Both had reached a bottom (we can have many) and admitted they were powerless over their addiction and life was, indeed, unmanageable. As they worked through the steps and embraced daily change their lives began improving. Both were then provided greater access to money albeit in different ways. Almost immediately they returned to their addictions and life dove toward their next bottom undoubtedly worse than the last. Both disappeared so I have no idea what happened to either. I believe these examples reflect Step 4 deficiencies.
Step 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Applying Pastor Brian’s lesson, greed, self-centeredness, and selfishness took over with each of these men and neither was able to continue a sober life. Neither had honestly identified the power of these character defects through their Step 4 work.
- Reduce debt
- Increase savings
- Be more generous
These steps build and reinforce contentment and gratitude. Being generous is actually what our 12th Step work is all about, sharing what was freely given to us. In large part, we build and maintain a content and grateful sobriety with an earnest focus on the quality and depth of our 4th Step and then following God’s word and example as we “do the next right thing” for others.